I am a strong believer in the synchronicity or the law of attraction. The word “law” in that statement is close to calling a shaman a medical professional because there isn’t a scientific formula that you can analyse and get specific results when you apply it. It is however in my experience a working practice and a real thing. I had people walking up to me and asking if I am interested in a business opportunities when I had a goal of becoming financially independent, calling me when I was looking to meet my favourite actor and a childhood hero – the list goes on. Those offerings are not always precise for instance I wanted to date a Spanish girl when this Portugese girl entered my life a week after I decided on it but a non-coincidental occurrence of those things was staggering.
A biological explanation for this phenomena is that we posses a part of our brain that is called a Reticular Activating System or RAS. The example of RAS working is magic would be you searching for something you decided to buy like a new car or really expensive pair of shoes. After you spent some time contemplating about it and even went to the shop to have a feel for yourself all the sudden you see those things everywhere! My question to you is were those things in existence before you started looking for them? Of course they were you just were paying attention to something else important to you at the time. Your RAS is necessary to filter through a waterfall of the information you receive on a regular basis to get whats useful and important to you for your survival.
This biological explanation to me is incomplete. In my personal example a Portuguese girl came out of nowhere after I placed a photo of a Spanish actress for a visualisation exercise (more about this later in this article). Being a spiritual person I would add that RAS may help you with finding nutritious berry’s in a forest so you do not starve however finding a business partner or a mentor is not necessary for survival. Another aspect of it is that RAS can not possible explain all of the events and conversations that happen without you actively engaging them. I found my explanation in the synchronicity of the events – we live in an interconnected universe that is a living and breathing organism.
A friend of mine shared with me recently that she often gets caught up in the “how” of meeting her ideal partner which a cause of frustration. She is a beautiful red hair and vibrant personality and intelligence. I have no doubt she will meet the right person if that where she is on her level of spiritual and personal development. I was contemplating on my response to her. I learnt from early days of my life coaching that giving advise is unnecessary as learning wheels on a motorbike. People have to come with their own way of balancing their ride. Think of the old proverb about giving a hungry man a fish or showing them how to catch one.
So I shared my view on this which is – I cant control the outcome but I am responsible for my actions. My job is to make a conscious effort to achieve my desire either through visualisation or going to the places to meet the right people or picking a new hobby. If you went to a bookstore and asked for a bread loaf what are the chances of you getting something to eat? Conversely sitting at home on on a couch and watching your favourite tv show is unlikely to bring you the love you want unless its a pizza delivery boy/girl who shares the same interest in being a couch potato.
It is then my job to sever the umbilical cord of the emotion from the outcome so it can manifest itself and come back into my life as a grown up person. It may sounds simple however one thing I learnt is that easiest things are the hardest ones to do. And because of that you need patience and trust added to the list of ingredients for your secret formula. Patience to allow things to happen in due course and a belief that the things are unravelling by the order of universal laws. I also found that while you are walking this path there will be an experience of joy and happiness in knowing that the things are going in the right way. With that comes an understanding that the outcome is not important at all. And then the right person enters your life which will happen almost coincidently in fact you may not even remember that this is the outcome you wanted. Receive those gifts with gratitude and remember that you are a gift to others. Do not keep the good stuff to yourself and be someone else’s outcome they are wishing for – as a partner, caretaker, person on a street with a smile that will make someones day.
I can see you reading this and thinking this law of attraction thing sounds amazing but how do I actually do it? Check our the second part of this post to find more.